feminist killjoy reporting for duty


The Catch 22 with poor people and clothes is that if you wear “expensive” looking or upperclass coded clothes, rich people claim that you don’t need help and are taking advantage of welfare.  But if you wear “cheap” looking or lower class coded clothes, then they see you as “trashy” and tell you that it’s your presentation and manner of dress that are to blame for classism and discrimination against you.


Do you ever think about the fact that the US has created and legitimized a system of institutionalized inequality by funding schools through property taxes?  That basically a child’s education is only as good as the value of the property in their neighborhood.  Funny how education is so often viewed as an equalizing factor when there is nothing equal about it.

But women can never be careful enough, can we? If we take naked pictures of ourselves, we’re asking for it. If someone can manage to hack into our accounts, we’re asking for it. If we’re not wearing anti-rape nail polish, we’re asking for it. If we don’t take self-defence classes, we’re asking for it. If we get drunk, we’re asking for it. If our skirts are too short, we’re asking for it. If we pass out at a party, we’re asking for it. If we are not hyper-vigilant every single fucking second of every single fucking day, we are asking for it. Even when we are hyper-vigilant, we’re still asking for it. The fact that we exist is asking for it.

This is what rape culture looks like.

This is what misogyny looks like.

Two of my female coworkers and I were just referred to as “the girls” by one of my male colleagues.

Why yes, I DO enjoy being infantilized based solely on my gender, thanks for not asking, dude.
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Time for a good old-fashioned intolerance-off.

(3.08) camping / (5.17) partridge




he misses kurt and i gave myself feels


So I went back and watched all of the choir room scenes from this season and in almost all of them, there is an empty chair beside Blaine (that sometimes has his bag on it like he’s saving it) or empty space enough to put a chair next to him. There are only four scene where that isn’t the case - the first gif being one of them which everyone else leaves open except for Wade/Unique who doesn’t know better yet.

There definitely seems to be an unspoken thing in ND about leaving a spot open next to Blaine. Even Brit in Dynamic Duos walks to the back row when there is clearly a chair next to Blaine.

[Ruth Bader] Ginsburg speaks warmly of [Sandra Day] O’Connor, who shared the same generational struggles. Indeed, Ginsburg sees the O’Connor departure (and the arrival of Alito) as the turning point for the modern Court. “The one big change in the time I’ve been here has been the loss of Justice O’Connor,” Ginsburg told me. “I think if you look at the term when she was not with us, every five-to-four decision when I was with the four, I would have been with the five if she had stayed.”
Jeffrey Toobin, in a profile of Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg — “Heavyweight” — for this week’s New Yorker (pay wall). Tomorrow on the show, Terry talks with Toobin about Ginsburg and the Court. Justice Sandra Day O’Connor was on the show today. (via nprfreshair)
The Awful Gender Politics of “We Saw Your Boobs”


So let me just get two things out of the way before I get really, really deep in detail about one specific aspect of the Oscars intro last night:

1) it was super, super-long and self-indulgent. Even by Oscar standards. It was like half an hour before anybody got an award and I laughed maybe twice. Seth McFarlane being delighted by himself is ok when sublimated into a half-hour cartoon, it’s not really tolerable when mugged at the screen by a guy in a suit for the same amount of time. It isn’t actually funny, and thus fails the first test: the test of comedy.

2) in the thick of the “We Saw Your Boobs” song, which must have lasted five minutes all by itself, this line jumped out at me: “Jodie Foster in ‘The Accused’”. And I thought to myself “wait, isn’t her nudity in that movie part of a *rape scene*?” It threw a really sour note into what was supposed to be light-hearted.

But the in-depth thing I want to talk about is the “reaction shots” to the song, pre-taped by game actresses who were playing along. The substance of these reaction shots highlights just what’s so awful about McFarlane singing this song: mortification from most of the actresses and a little fist-pump of triumph from Jennifer Lawrence when he says we haven’t seen hers.

The song, the reaction shots and Seth McFarlane’s general attitude are all based on a commonplace and awful trope: that sex is a contest, and that men win and women lose when sex or nudity happens. It’s an archaic, prudish, creepy concept that derives from twisted notions about female purity and women-as-property.

McFarlane thinks if he has seen a woman’s breasts, he has won and she has lost, and he is now entitled to gloat about it. Women whose breasts Seth McFarlane has seen are meant to feel humiliated and degraded by that fact, even though it’s expected of actresses to show their breasts to get work. Meet the expectations placed on you by your industry, talented actresses? Too bad you’ve now injured your own dignity such that Seth McFarlane can mock you about it in front of a billion people. Even if your character is naked *because she’s being raped* (see point 2 above), it still amounts to a victory for Seth McFarlane to have seen your breasts.

McFarlane presents the whole skit as something he shouldn’t do, which makes it even worse, because he wants to get credit for the cleverness of his idea while also pretending it is beneath him. Which is completely candy-ass and cowardly.

The sexuality-as-contest-between-men-and-women thing is bubbling underneath so much that is awful: rape culture, workplace harassment, slut-shaming, abuse-themed porn, pick-up artist culture, etc., etc. It sets aside women as a separate thing from a person, and makes them into an object that is “ruined” by sex or nudity.

In a culture with a healthy attitude about sex and sexuality, McFarlane’s song would have no sting at all, because nudity in film would be a completely different sort of animal: it wouldn’t be compulsory for actresses to draw that “I am pure and don’t ghet naked”/”I am fallen and thus am only good for getting naked” line, and there wouldn’t be shame associated with having been naked on  screen. There would be no sting in McFarlane smugly taunting women whose boobs he’s seen.

We don’t, yet, live in that culture. And when Seth McFarlane plays “sex is a contest and YOU LOST, Kate Winslet” for laughs, it’s depressingly clear how far we are from it.

who knew that being an adorable, innocent 9-year-old going to the oscars would prove to be such a liability to yourself?

i don’t know what is up with tumblr recently, but it takes FOREVER to load, keeps double posting and/or deleting my tags on reblogs, sending asks privately when i mean to edit and publish them, i can no longer see the edit/reply/delete/reblog icons (luckily i instinctively know where they are), and whenever i have my dashboard open in my browser it depletes my battery faster than it can recharge (even when my phone is plugged in). WHAT THE FUCK GIVES??


Getting really tired of shit like this and this and the above situation that happened to me this morning at 9AM and sometimes I get mad and comics come out